Good men

[Jae-Lyn]

Do anyone believe that there are still some good men out there on this earth?

[Trey]

uhhh yea. u cant say there aren't logically speaking till u date all 5 billion of us. ;)

[Jae-Lyn]

but it is hard to tell because of the games u (in general) play

[Trey]

its not that we nesscearily play games its just more or less not takeing eveything for face value. some men do play games and i use the term men loosely because if he were a real man he wouldnt need games he would just need his self.

[Jae-Lyn]

n thats wat i am talkin about...why can't they be themselves...its like they find it hard to be themselves. n from the games they play is the reason why so many ppl are heartbroken

[Trey]

true, but being the diplomatic person i am ima defend both sides. i understand where u coming from about being heartbroken. i been there. and to flip the coin i can understand y some men run major game, to me it seems more or less an adaptaion to their present realiety, i.e. their surroundings. If the world say its cool and fun to play women then their going to do it. it may not be their true character but its an adaptation to fit in. or another reason is they just horny and wanna smash everything that wit a cute face.

[Jae-Lyn]

n by the mentality of smashin err girl wit a cute face or body is the main reason why they have unwanted pregnancies n disease curable n incurable. men is all about visual n wat is on the outside instead the inside of the woman...n woman have to get stronger n learn to love themselves enough to realize that the guy isnt interested in her but interested wat he can get

[Trey]

as far as women get stronger yea i agree with you cause much like our race in general yall are'nt living up to yall full potntial. and as far as men go we not all like dat real talk, it is a lot of guys like dat. but the key word is a lot, no where did i mention all. There are 5 billion of us, we cant all be bad....

[Jae-Lyn]

n us women have to love ourselves enough to not get takin advantage of..n im not sayin that all are bad but the number is gettin scarce because of homosexuality...behind bars...dead etc.

[Trey]

there is truth to what u say, cause its like now a days being gay is hot or somethin. but things may look bleak now, but u no they say its always darkest rite b4 the sun comes. Besides everything that u mentioned above that eliminates from "the pool of good men" is similar to natural selection. only the strong survive in the world we live in now, so hey, if u find a good one, try and make it work.

[Jae-Lyn]

i will..but i guess it is all in God's timing

[Clarence Porter]

Wow...yall have been all up, down and around the loop on this one. What the brotha speaks is true though. My suggestion would be "if you encounter a male that has an interest in having a relationship with you, get him away from everything.

Get him away from his peers and civilization [as best as possible] and talk for hours upon hours and days upon days. Talk about your various childhoods and up-bringings, your crazy family members, your life's scariest moment...

talk about your favorite color, food and car and where you want to be in 10 years. Talk about your likes and your dislikes, your pet peeves and idio-syncrasies. Then, when it seems like you have run out of things to say, talk about how long you've been talking and your past relationships. Talk about the respect you give and the respect you deserve. Talk about the things [not necessarily physical] that you are willing to sacrifice and the things [not necessarily emotional/spiritual] you absolutely will not compromise over....

Last, but not at all the least, be honest in all your talking. It may take a few days, a few weeks, a few months or a few years....but do this to start a relationship and I can almost guarantee a compatible, happy and prosperous one." ----------Clarence Porter (copyright pending)

[Jae-Lyn]

lol copyright...u silly clarence.....now i agree with you 100% on how to start off a relationship...and that's want i want is honesty in da relationship cuz i dnt like liars...i would enjoy that conversation..and while u talk u can see how sparks fly (metaphorically speaking). but its like there is really no guy who does that anymore and/or even if they do participate in doing that it'll be like that only in the beginning and they change. i would love to spend time gettin to kno him...but things or his way of thinkin could be totally differnt in his mind. only unless he think he found the one woman he has been lookin for..and!!! lol if the guy does participate in doin/talkin about the things you stated to do...oh he may do it but the main thing he really wants to kno is wat do i want in a guy. which i dont like to be asked that cuz im not gonna tell u...cuz i want u to be urself dnt try to be someone that i want u to be then if the friendship level grows into a relationship level it would be based on a lie cuz he is not being himself